I belong to a Primary message board site and last couple of days there has been this huge hoopla about male teachers in Primary. Somehow some presidents are saying that in the "guidelines" it states that if a male is called to teach Primary then it has to be as a couple (husband/wife team) or 2 males, doors are to remain always open and that any member of the presidency can walk in unannounced at any given moment. When I posted the question of where this so called guidleline is no one seems to know. I also pointed out that males were being dumped on (on this site regarding this particular post) and that men aren't the only ones that are abusers of children.
I also pointed out that if the church (according to the Utah wards that were posting) had set these guidelines to protect the children then how is it that men can teach in Young Men or in Scouts where the chances are greater for risk factor as they meet a lot away from the actual building (camps etc).
Has anyone actually seen this guideline set out by the church?
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Just a note, but men can't teach scouts alone. They frequently do, but they aren't supposed to. I know because I was called to scouts as the assistant and then the leader's work kept him from doing it. I refused to hold meetings alone and kept bugging them to call someone as a leader. So we just didn't have scouts.
This is pretty prominent in the documentation you have to fill out.
Frankly, I hope this policy is in place church-wide. Men aren't the only abusers of children, but lamentably, they are the majority. These rules just make sense.
Another example of outrageous policies caused by the actions of a few.
Men are treated in the Church as if they are weasels waiting to strike unsuspecting victims at every turn.
If their wives are abusive, somehow the man must be to blame. If their children are dysfunctional then the man must be to blame. And if the wife wants a divorce, the man must be to blame.
Then they wonder why there is a lack of enthusiasm among the brethern re: home teaching etc.
In fact, I'm surprised that home teaching is allowed by the brethern. We are clearly a bunch of perverts who are telestial beings waiting to die.
If those who are doing the calling do not have sufficient knowledge of those whom they call, then why are they in the position to make the call in the first place.
Does this illustrate some lack of diligence on their part?
If a man is a pervert let the rest of us beat the bl...y h... out of him and then the rest of us can live without the cloud of suspicion over our heads.
I taught primary twice...18 months each time...I took my calling seriously and loved every minute of it. If at any time someone felt to check up on me to see if I was abusing the children, I would have resigned on the spot.
This is outrageous.
On the other hand I support Clark in what he did, because when I attended scouts at a Baptist Church, when I was a kid, the Scout master was an abuser, and the assistant scout masters were too stupid to stop him. There was also a bishop who would go to scout camp with the express purpose of abusing the boys. He later became a patriarch.
Fortunately, he has been exed.
i never have heard of this as an actual guideline from the head of the church. however, in some wards maybe they were just inspired to do it this way?
however, i think it is probably best in our day and time if every class was team taught. afterall, women can be abusers as well.
actually, let's just do away with the last two hours and only have sacrament meeting... that would solve these kinds of problems all together, and probably increase activity as well! :)
I'm the primary teacher of 4-5 year-olds. I've only heard of this policy by reading variations of it on the bloggernacle. The only policy I've heard in my ward is that I can't teach with a woman who is not my wife. I've got 7 kids in my class and I teach alone. It's actually been very fun and I've grown to love the children -- they are all unique and make class interesting. The only hard part about teaching by myself is that I don't have enough lap space. Going out of town would be easier with another teacher too. We just don't have enough adults to double-up in all the primary classes.
Of course, the presidency is welcome to come into my class anytime. I occassionally solicit their help when taking kids to the bathroom.
I am certainly saddened by events that cause some to feel it necessary to place such precautions on the teacher-child relationship. Abuse is the furthest thing from my mind and I would expect the same of anyone who was placed in this calling. Unfortuntately that is not reality, so I do not blame anyone if they feel this policy would help.
If all classes were to have two teachers, I would also vote to do away with the requirement that teachers were spouses or of the same gender. It'd be awesome if each class had a male and female teacher to give positive role models. Plus the kids would see that men and women can work together on a team that is not a marriage. Of course, there are reasons why that rule is in place too...
So primary teachers need a buddy, but it's perfectly alright to send my 14 year old son into a bishop's interview behind closed doors?
Can you smell that? It's the hypocrisy stewing.
Good point, rick. After all, some bishops have been accused of molestation.
If I taught primary I would welcome such a policy. Why? Because false accusations of abuse,while rare, to happen and once that geenie is out of the bottle it never goes back in. Such a policy not only protects children from predators, but it also protects good folks from false accusations.
I should add that I think this policy should ideally be applied to men and women equally (although many wards simply do not have enough people to make such a policy work).
Our primary president made an announcement last Sunday. She said all male teachers were to be team teachers if they taught children or youth - no solo teaching would be permitted from now on. She said the directive was coming from the stake, but thought it was actually coming from (her words) "the powers that be."
I think they should just put huge windows in every door so that there is no privacy. There is no need for privacy at church.
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